Thursday, October 9, 2014

On Blogging (and New Friends)

As a clumsy, thoughtful and stubborn child with a home haircut that featured stunning blond bangs, I would run up to other children and get straight to the point: "Hi, I'm Liz. Do you want to be my friend?"

To anyone. Any age. Any gender. Anyone. Sometimes I wish I were more like myself as a child.


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Today at my desk (at work), I threw my hands in the air and bounced up and down a couple times on the chair. I'd read that my post "won" the SHINE Blog Hop—it had gotten the most views out of 140 posts on the page.

Maybe this is just a small success, but I'm beginning to understand that even a small success at something you really put yourself into feels better than the huge success of something you're not personally invested in. I mean, really personally invested.

For a long, long (as in years) time, I debated whether to start blogging; I still question everything I post—every photo of my baby that I think someone could exploit or judge or overshare, every personal detail. But my urge to share and be a part of the online mommy-blogging community wins over.

And the reward—the sense of connection, the friends you make as a result of allowing yourself to be vulnerable—is so very worth any risk, real or imagined. I hope you, whether you blog or not, can allow yourself to be just vulnerable and open enough that love and friendship find their way in.

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A new visitor (the wonderful DIZMOMMY) to the blog posted a wonderful comment just now, saying I'm her new friend. And I didn't even have to ask. 

9 comments:

  1. Awww, this is lovely too! I'm so glad that "winning" the SHINE Blog Hop lifted your spirits and encouraged you!

    The blogging community is amazing! I'm so glad you found some community... because that's one of the reasons why I keep hosting the #SHINEbloghop week after week.

    By the way, Rebecca-faith from DizMommy is amazing. Such a great blogger and a fabulous blogging friend. I'm glad you two connected.

    Wishing you a fabulous weekend.
    xoxo

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    1. I just saw you linked this up to the #SHINEbloghop! Thanks for sharing!
      xoxo

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    2. Thank you for reading! And again, thank you for hosting it. You're doing the fabulous work of connecting all of us. Sometimes it can be hard to find those connections out there in the ether of the Internet, but bloghops like yours help immensely!

      Hope you have a wonderful weekend, as well! Take care.

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  2. Just stumbled onto your blog from the SHINE bloghop- I really enjoyed the post that you shared.
    I've met a lot of great online friends through blogs and since we live overseas and built our family through adoption, I've been able to find a lot of support and advice from other families that blog.
    It's nice to "meet" you and thanks for sharing!
    Amber from OurCharmedLife.net

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    1. Thanks so much! It's wonderful to meet you, too! It's a joy to be able to grow your online community of families and moms and friends. I'll be hopping over to your blog now!

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  3. I love Jennifer for connecting me to so many amazing people and what a cool coincidence that you were writing about new friends when I was commenting about how you're MY new friend! Obviously this is meant to be! lol I know what you mean about questioning everything you post- sometimes I get super paranoid about pictures and if weird stalker freaks I DON'T know are reading the blog will come to my house and kidnap my baby. But then I get a grip and let it go because I can only control so much.

    <3!

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    1. Totally meant to be! And about the photos...I'm considering taking pictures from the neck down. They'll look like I'm being artsy, right? ;)

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  4. P.S. My mom cut my hair too- I had the same bangs...only my cut was a bowl. always always a bowl. :[

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